I love that I have the opportunity to pace my day based on what I want to accomplish. I love that my space, my apartment, is custom-fitted for me and the work I do and the lifestyle I live, rather than for guests I might someday have, or someone else’s ideas of what a space should look like and contain.
It sounds horribly anti-social, I know. But that’s kind of a loaded term, isn’t it? Anti-social?
It implies that social is what we should aspire to be, while quite often ‘social’ gets in the way of what we really want to accomplish.
Why not ‘pro-self’? Individual-focused? Me-shaped?
There are immense benefits to having a good group of friends. People you can reach out to when you want a conversation and a beer. People you can discuss heady topics with when you’re feeling intellectually stopped-up. Folks who help you track time and make memories, sometimes by just being there.
But there are aspects of one’s development that can actually be stunted by an over-focus on socializing. Not being able to be alone — and to not just survive, but thrive, as an individual — seems like a limiting trait.